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In the Age of Long Distance Love Affairs

Relationships are now merely a pinch on a smartphone screen, emojis animating your feelings and a touch on the keypad you can barely feel. I am one of those people grew up at the same time that love evolves to networking social sites. So, how does one define relationships in the 90’s? A friend of mine told me relationships during the 90’s are like vintage classic television shows. You may only see the same spectrum of colors again and again, but the flicker never fades. Then and there, I asked someone from today’s generation to define love. He said that love is like a search engine, you need to go through trial and error to find the one that’s going to stay with you through the test of distance and time.

In my everyday commute to the busy streets of the city, I have observed that more and more people walk on the streets alone. Not the sad facet of being alone. They walked with a smile while grabbing on to the mic of their earphones. They hold on to it from home to work, and vice versa after their duties. Just playing back this scenario gives me apprehensions of what is in store for our future human relationships.

I am part of this LDR population, and it’s nothing new to me. Five years of working an LDR is the most daring thing I made in my life. To keep it working smoothly every day is extremely challenging. Honestly, there are times when I feel that I can just be with myself and that I don’t need anyone who’s far from me to even worry about my life on the other side of the planet. I grew tired of pressing the keypads and I longed for the presence of my partner. There were weeknights when sleeping is a task, a struggle and a curse. I stayed awake during the wee hours and imagined how life would be if he’s by my side. There were times when I just want to argue with him so that he’ll get tired of living apart and would choose to stay with me literally. I continuously struggle in believing that God destined me with this person when all He did was to separate us in distance I can’t even comprehend. I hated the idea of my partner choosing his dreams over me, of choosing that country over me, and of staying in that country without me. There was heartbreak after heartbreak after heartbreak. This cycle was not fun at all. It broke me apart into pieces to the point that I felt like I killed myself for taking this risk. I killed myself of the opportunity to find someone who’ll choose and stay with me. I thought of killing myself literally so that my partner can realize what my worth is when I’m gone. I was desperate to see him.

However, as selfish as I can be, I would never know how hard it is on his part as a man. My male students told me it’s harder and frustrating. A man’s purpose is to protect his girlfriend whenever she feels scared, or to comfort her when she’s sad. He won’t be able to fulfill his duties as a man because he is too far. I may not be able to see how my partner would see, but this is just a proof how demanding a long distance relationship is.

So, if you are reading this and you have a partner in close proximity to where you live, be thankful. You are one of the luckiest people who can call your partner and see minutes later in front of your door with arms open wide and ready to hug you. You may think that he doesn’t have time with you, but you are lucky enough to even have the same time zone and the same day with the one you love. You won’t need to set two clock widgets on your phone to make sure you don’t miss a scheduled chat. If he’s late during dates, still be thankful he arrived. LDR couple can’t even have normal dinner dates or movie dates especially when internet connection is pretty slow. If it’s your monthsary, accept his gifts and efforts be it small or big. LDR couples depend on digital cards, simple facebook posts, and skype video calls, because shipping is pretty expensive dear, esp. if you’re oceans apart. If you’re on the verge now of breaking up because you got tired of seeing that same person every day, don’t. LDR couples would trade five seconds off their life if it means to see the one they love face to face. You won’t know what you have until it’s gone. You won’t realize how lucky you are until you become unlucky.

If you have any suggestions on how LDR couples could make their relationship better, please write a comment below.

Her Playlist

Ever wonder what’s running through a girl’s mind when she’s alone? Check out her playlist.

Music is love and it can also spread love as it is consider by most scientists as therapy. Have you ever noticed when a person’s in love, they listen to upbeat and passionate love songs? That’s how music affects our mood, and our being. It has a huge impact on what a person feels, want to feel or an emotion he wants to avoid.

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You can learn more about your partner’s emotional personality through his/her playlist. Try checking out or asking them what songs are they currently listening to. Listen to it, and try to interpret the lyrics. I guess the next time she/he listens to it, you’ll know the reason why.

To learn more about this topic, click http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/06/26/how-music-impacts-helps-our-emotions/

December 2013 Top 10 Most Played Songs on my Playlist

1. Zedd- Clarity

2. Hyorin- One Way Love

3. Ariana Grande- Honeymoon Avenue

4. Fifth Harmony- Leave My Heart Out of This

5. Fifth Harmony- Who are you

6. GD- Who you

7. Eminem ft. Rihanna- The Monster

8. Nicole Cross- Let Her Go (Cover)

9. Rihanna- Stay

10. 김종국 – 남자가 다 그렇지 뭐 

Awesome Finds: ManaTEA Infuser

Are you a tea lover? tea addict? or someone who finds tea interesting? Here’s a cool and awesome find over the internet. It’s a cool teal infuser that looks like a manatee! 

According to the manufacturer: Everybody’s favorite Floridian wants to brew you a nice cup of tea and share a slow, calm moment.  Our ManaTea Tea Infuser loves relaxing in your warm water while it brews your tea!  This gentle creature just wants to rest in your mug!

Look how adorable this cute little manatea! 

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Get it at Amazon.com: http://www.amazon.com/Fred-MANA-MANATEA-Infuser/dp/B00B5EE0A6 for $8!

Weekly Photo Challenge: Enlightening Patterns

Ceiling of Gyeongbokgung Palace, a royal palace located in Seoul, South Korea. Captured September 18, 2013 during the Chuseok Festival. Credits owned by Miss Shinobu.

 

For Photo Challenge http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2013/09/20/lines-patterns/

Daily Prompt Challenge | Great Is A Teacher

A teacher is great.
Her books help her.
Her eye sees the future.
Her ears listen to voices.
Her mouth speaks words of wisdom.

Her hands help you learn how to write.
Her lectures help you acquire knowledge.
Her classroom enlightens your senses.
Her homework annoys yet nourishes your mind.

But a teacher is not great because she has herself.
She is great because she has her students.
Her greatness comes in the collection of young minds willing to listen, learn and trust her on making their journey worthwhile.

http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2013/09/21/daily-prompt-greatness/

BMW featuring Eat Your Kimchi

Posts under this tag will all be related to different blogs that I am a fan of.  B.M.W does not stand for a brand of an automobile here but for Blog Me Want or blogs that I like. 

This week, the blog feature is *drum rolls* http://www.eatyourkimchi.com ! 

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First Click: I first came across their blog last year but I saw them first on Youtube. They have three YouTube channels which have been viewed by more than a million netizens! This blog highlights more of the culture of South Korea or all about Korea!

What do you love this blog? Aside from their adorable video intro and effects, I love how they give entertainment, facts, review and laughter to their viewers. I also love that they have different video segments and schedule like for example Monday is for Kpop Music Mondays, Thursday they have WANKs or FAPFAPs. WANK stands for “Wonderful Adventure Now Korea” (Which I totally love! ^^) and FAPFAP stands for “Food Adventure Program For Awesome People”, and so on. Well, except for tuesdays where they sleep or rest.

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About the Bloggers: Simon and Martina are a married Canadian couple who’s been is South Korea since 2008. Their first video are for fun, but these videos eventually give way to a more promising career which they do now–awesome vloggers/bloggers! Their popularity can be obviously seen through their youtube channel, blog, eyk store (they now have a store!!!) and different media advertisements and programs around the globe. They have been featured in different journals, sites and hosting programs. They are now celebrating Eat Your Kimchi’s 5th Year Anniversary! 

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Recommended Videos/Entries: 

1. Sleep Muzzle: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=po1R7lHmVbw (Funny stuffs)

2. WANK: BOard Game Cafe Edition http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y1w3M8rWLXo (scariest game ever?!)

3.  Introducing Our Dog Spudgy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_oOiTBvWC0A (one of their oldest and cuties archived video)

Rating: ♥♥♥♥♥/5 hearts

Website: http://www.eatyourkimchi.com/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/eatyourkimchi

Youtube: http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLMtDePlMyiqv2XC_ByNEVQ

Instagram: http://instagram.com/eatyourkimchi

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EatYourKimchiPage

Silly Things We Do

When we’re bored. We do stuffs like these.

Open the cam, and click it! click it! click it!

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Do another pose instead of wasting your time.

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Sing a song or play with our thumbs. 

Watching the sun sets at the corner of our photographs.

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Oh! the silly things we do are just to embarrassing to scroll again! 🙂

Getting Over His Mistakes and Shortcomings

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Having a relationship is like undergoing different degrees of practical test. Each test will serve a lesson or two which can make us grow eventually into being the right person for the job. But what if the lesson comes in a heavy circumstances? What if the mistakes your other half did is so shocking and painful? How can you forgive and forget?

1. Weigh the mistake. First, know if it is a serious case like having an affair with someone or a petty case like being late for a date. People make mistakes. It is normal for us to have a couple of shortcomings in our relationship. So think first of the how serious their fault is.

2. Listen. Listening is a key point to every relationship. Don’t do the questioning marathon. Listen to him/her. Remember Oprah’s 6 Rules for Talking and Listening! Be a two-way communicator. Listen to the details, the reasons, and the emotion of the talker. It is also one way to know if the person is sorry for his/her mistake.

3. Analyze. Now that you know his/her side, it’s time for you to analyze the situation. If he/she admits the mistake and is really sorry for what he/she has done, make it count. Not all people can swallow their pride and say “sorry”. You can also ask some questions, not too much though. Be sure to ask questions that will clarify the issue, not make it go around circles. 

4. Decide. In deciding whether or not to forgive your other half depends on your trust level. If you think the person is genuinely true and really felt remorse on himself/herself, go on and give a go to second chance. If he/she promised you that you’ll never get to see them doing that action again, then give it one more try. It’s not easy to forgive completely, but if you really love the person why not give it a try. 

On the other hand, if he/she has done the same shortcomings/mistakes/ faults again and again, I think 100 chances is too much. You still have to love yourself. (Just sayin’)

5. Getting Over It. Forgiving is the first step, forgetting takes years to do so. For girls, one serious mistake in our relationship can cost a major trust issue. (BEWARE) It’s really tough for girls to forgive, mainly because when girls trust they REALLY trust. Another reason is because our hearts are more fragile compare to the guys. So, if you’re boyfriend did something serious but you still love him, forgive him and want to work out the relationship, just remember that it will take time to trust him again. Tell him that fact. Do not hide your fears from him. Boyfriends are made to help you conquer your fears. 

Next, you need to love yourself more. I mean more than you did before. It’s a kind of protection and healing process that you can do for yourself. Pampering yourself or engaging to more social activities will help you through the healing process. Lastly, do new things with your other half. It’s  a kind of renewing process for both of you and your relationship so I think experiencing new things together will bring you closer together. 

Based on my experience, it’s really tough to forgive someone after that person broke the trust you’ve put on your relationship. But as the relationship go by, you will then realize that some of those mistakes you both made before are just rigid lessons you need to pass to be a better couple. As for me, it took like 6 months to get it over, but there are still some times that it flashes back to your memory–especially the “what-ifs”. However, you just need to build a new ladder of trust with the help of your partner. It’s a two way relationship, so work it out together. 

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